How To Acquire Self-Mastery

He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty,
And he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.

Proverbs 16:32


My dear fellow Proverbs 31 women in progress,

I hope you are well. Today I will talk about the acquisition of self mastery or self-discipline. I know, I already talked about self discipline in earlier posts.

But I insist on this topic because I do believe that it’s a very important tool to be used by every Christian to be victorious against Satan, to reach your goals, and basically to live a successful life.

And don’t worry if you feel you are not the most self-disciplined person in the world; I also do have problems with this issue in some areas of my life.

Therefore, I hope that this post will help all of us to grow in wisdom and to have the conditions to be successful at every level!

Here are some keys to acquire self-mastery:

  • know what you’re worth
  • fast and pray
  • train your will
  • keep the faith

Know what you’re worth

 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.

1 Corinthians 6: 19-20

I know that this verse is used to warn against sexual immorality. However it also reminds us that were bought at a price by the sacrifice of Jesus Christ on the cross. Our souls have an important price to God’s eyes, beloved.

Sometimes, the devil wants us to think that we’re worth nothing and he uses evil people, painful situations and some of our failures to convince us. However, once we are reminded that we are precious in the sight of God, we will kick these lies out of our way.

Knowing that God values us so much should develop in us a sense of a good self-image and make us expect more of ourselves as Christian women.

Let me give you a piece of advice from sister to sister: next time someone or a situation lets you know that you’re worth nothing, please remember the verse quoted above. And kick the negative thoughts out of your mind!

Fast and pray

Fasting means that we abstain from eating and drinking during a certain period of time. I know, it’s difficult not to eat and drink. That’s why these spiritual disciplines will help us to develop self-mastery.

When we fast, we get closer to God and we listen more to what He tells us, especially when we accompany our fast by prayer.  During our fast and prayer time, God also gives spiritual strength to achieve our goals.

If you need to look up to Biblical role models for fast and prayer, please consider the following characters:

  • Jesus fasted and prayed during 40 days and 40 nights before starting His ministry
  • Moses fasted during 40 days and 40 nights when He was given the 10 commandments by God
  • Esther fasted and prayed during 3 days and 3 nights before pleading the cause of her people before King Ahasuerus

Read more: Worthy Women Series #2 – Queen Esther

Okay, we won’t fast 40 days and 40 nights like Moses (he was in the presence of God, and we all know that man does not live from bread alone, but also from every word that comes out of the mouth of the Lord) or Jesus (He is God and he has supenatural abilities).

However, we can start adding fast and prayer in our lives by doing it once a month to begin with, and add gradually the frequency of our new habit until we are comfortable enough to fast and pray once a week.

Train your will

How can we train our will? By doing things that are frankly unpleasant or difficult. Self-mastery requires that we should be led by the Spirit and not by the flesh anymore.

Here are some examples of tasks we can perform daily to train our will:

  • get up very early, let’s say at 5:30 am
  • take a cold shower
  • exercise
  • eat vegetables
  • quit smoking
  • quit eating unhealthy and processed foods
  • get a specific task done at a specific time (ex: cook dinner by 7 pm, write a post once a week – yay me!)
  • do housework chores – even when it’s extremely boring

Keep the faith

For assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you.

Matthew 17:20

Wow, this promise comes straight from the Lord’s mouth! If we have faith and that we keep our eyes on the prize, nothing will be impossible to us. Don’t let anybody or anything discourage you from fulfilling your dreams.

Just continue to be faithful and to apply whatever is necessary to achieve your goals. Success will come in the way.

Well, that’s all for today! Have you identified other ways to acquire self-mastery? Please share them in the comments below!

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Stay blessed!

Read also: Self-discipline is the key

Recommended reading:

Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin



  1. Khayyam Ishaq says:

    Hi Angelce,

    What a great post on self-worth, possibly the most important things in life are hard to reach, but not impossible. As you say that the mind thinks, dreams and so exists the seed of doubt which holds you back.

    Evil is everywhere you only have to look around, it is right in front of you but you tend to ignore it. Someone once told me that if you need to hide something put it right in front of someone and they will ignore it.

    I think the hardest thing is for you to change, to become a better person, but that comes with a price. Sometimes you have to sacrifice by being open, free to change, eventually, the things you need to improve upon will become easier.

    For me, the mind has to be trained to think alternatively for you to achieve self-mastery, that does take time and effort. Nothing comes easily, you have to work for it. What do you think?



    • angelce says:

      Dear Khayyam,

      Thank you for your comment. I do agree that you must work to be disciplined. You must also want to be disciplined and live a good life. 

    • Ash says:

      I loved this article. It shows not only spiritual ways to help improve your essence of self but also physical and emotional ways. I love that you touched on a biblical standpoint on the importance of knowing your worth so that you may be in a better mind frame to serve God.