Do not be deceived: evil company corrupts good habits.
1 Corinthians 15:33
My dear Proverbs 31 women in progress,
I hope you’re well since my last post. Today, my post will be quite short and will deal with friendship.
How should you choose your friends? How can your friends influence your life for better or for worse?
To answer that question, let’s examine the story of Amnon and Jonadab.
The story of Amnon and Jonadab
In a previous post, I analyzed the story of Amnon and Tamar. Well, for this analysis, I’ll go back to this story. The relationship between Amnon and Jonadab is addressed in 2 Samuel 13 if you want to review it.
Amnon, the eldest son of King David, was in love in Tamar, his half-sister. He was so in love that he fell ill. One day, his best friend Jonadab asked him why his health was vanishing day after day.
Now, let me introduce Jonadab to you. The Bible precises that Jonadab was the son of Shimeah, King David’s brother. So Jonadab is also his cousin. So you would think that family members have the best intentions for you, right?
Well, when Jonadab heard that Amnon was in love with his half-sister and that he wanted to sleep with her, Jonadab did nothing to discourage Amnon.
On the contrary, he gave him a piece of advice to help him attract Tamar to his bed. He advised him to lie in his bed, to pretend to be ill and to ask the King to send Tamar to him so that she would prepare cakes for him.
The King accepted and the rest is history. Amnon raped Tamar, Absalom (Tamar’s full-blooded brother) started to hate Amnon and had him assassinated.
And do you know the irony of all of this? It was Jonadab who announced Amnon’s death to King David, saying that Amnon died because of what he did to Tamar.
He had the nerve to tell that to King David and act if he wasn’t involved in the whole situation! You can Wonder what Jonadab’s intentions were towards Amnon.
Your friendships can determine your destiny
As the story of Amnon and Jonadab showed, you should choose your friends carefully. Your friends must be people who sustain your spirit and who should be able to give you good advice when necessary.
Your friends should be able to be straightforward and show you that you’re mistaken when you’re wrong. Your friends should be your keepers and have your best interests at heart.
Unfortunately, Amnon didn’t have this chance with Jonadab. Amnon had an unnatural feeling for his half-sister and needed help for this.
Instead, Jonadab encouraged an incestuous relationship and speeded up the violent death of Amnon. Sometimes, I am wondering what Jonadab’s intentions were.
Did he want to destroy the House of David by attacking Amnon, who was supposed to be the heir as the eldest son? Well, we all know that all the tragic events that happened in King David’s family are direct consequences of his own adultery with Bath-Sheba.
But this is another story…
Well, that’s all for today? How do you choose your friends? What do you think of the story of Amnon and Jonadab? Please share your view in the comments section below!
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