Can a Proverbs 31 Woman Be Single?

Hello, my fellow Proverbs 31 women in progress!

Sometimes, when I read Proverbs 31 and discuss about it around me, many people tell me that it concerns married women. Indeed, the Proverbs 31 woman is described as a wife and mother.

It is said that her husband trusts her, that her husband and children praise her, that her husband is an important man in the City. How about single woman in this portrait? Are single women concerned by the description of the Proverbs 31 woman?



My answer is…


Actually, I do think that the author of this chapter was considering an appropriate single woman that a King should marry and which possess all the qualities and merits described in Proverbs 31. So, if you are single and that you are still waiting for your husband like me, here are some suggestions to live a full life as a single woman.

Develop a close relationship with God



A beautiful woman praying

The advantage when you are single is that you can serve the Lord at your leisure. The Apostle Paul said that a single woman has the opportunity to be closer to God because she wants to be holy in her body and spirit wheras the married woman cares more about worldly things and about ways to please her husband (you can read 1 Corinthians, chapter 7).

Being single will allow you to pray, meditate the Scripture and search the face of the Lord at your rhythm. Remember that until God gives you a husband, He is your Husband.

Set goals for your life

setting goals

How do you see your life in the future?

Don’t sit around and think that you have to find a husband, so that he’ll do everything for you. I do believe that real men love accomplished women.

What do you want to do in your life?

What are your goals for the next six months, the next year, the next five years?

What are the things that you want to achieve?

Many feminine women we admire were highly accomplished when they got married. Look at Michelle Obama who was a talented lawyer when she met her husband. Queen Cleopatra could speak seven languages and was highly educated.

Think about it and take all the opportunities you have to grow as a person.

Enjoy your life to the max

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Happy face!

Okay, I am not saying that you should party, get drunk, smoke weed and all the stuff that people associate with enjoying life. I am just saying that you should take all the opportunities which are offered to you.

Learn new things, travel, meet new people. Be a satisfied single woman and don’t become depressed because you don’t have a man in your life for the time being. Fulfill your dreams! Who knows what God can do for you in the next years?

Develop your homemaking skills

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A beautiful and dedicated homemaker

Those who read my posts know that I used to find homemaking boring until I became a Christian. I really encourage you to develop these skills while you’re still single so that your husband won’t have to complain about you.

Become a domestic goddess! If you need to grow in this field, buy books about homemaking, get knowledge and start applying what you read!

Take care of yourself


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A beautiful single woman

Take care of your spiritual state. Take care of your health. Take pride in your appearance. You can even have a total makeover just to find your look! I have personally decided to get a total makeover for 31st birthday.

Don’t keep up with the Joneses



Are you the only single woman in a world of married couples? Believe me, I know how you feel, especially when people ask you “Oh, you’re still single? When are you going to get married? You’re such a nice person!”

Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses. When you start to know yourself better, you’ll be able to know what kind of people will suit you. Don’t even listen to people who will try to give you some advice that you didn’t ask.

A friend of my mother’s even started advising me to lower my standards if I wanted to get married. I listened to her, smiled at her, thanked her but I know what I want to do with my life and I don’t need her advice because she doesn’t know me.

Don’t envy people who are already married. Your time is coming!

Do you agree with my point of view? Please share!

Stay blessed!


  1. Sean says:

    Hi Elodie,

    What a great topic for a site! As a Christian man, I can honestly say that this aspect of a Christian woman’s character is the most important one to me.

    A woman who has a Godly character is truly ‘worth far more than rubies’.

    It’s easy to find a pretty woman, but it’s not so easy to find a truly beautiful woman, who is beautiful because of who she is and not just because of how she looks.

    I think what you said about single ladies relaxing and not feeling like they need to get married too soon is great advice – so many people fall into the trap of ‘keeping up with the Joneses’ only to wind up with the wrong person.

    Keep up the great work!

    • angelce says:

      Hi Sean,

      Thank you for your great comment! It’s really important for us women to have men who really appreciate godly character first and foremost before beauty!
      God bless.

    • Enid says:

      A Proverbs 31 woman is a model for every woman to strive for. We all want to be her, but most don’t want to put in the time or the effort required. I know for me killing some of my petty tendencies in my thought life has been my biggest hinderance to growing into God’s kind of woman. I have to be intentional and choose to say kind words when I feel grumpy and choose generous thoughts when I feel critical. That is how I am working on being a proverbs 31 woman…and this is something you can do no matter whether you are married or single…young or old.

      • angelce says:

        Hi Enid,

        Thanks for sharing your point of view and your experience. Yes, being a Proverbs 31 woman is what you need to strive for and it requires a lot of discipline. Hopefully, by God’s grace we are all leaving the old woman we were to become a new creature. May God continue to bless you!