Building our houses

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Hello my fellow Proverbs 31 women in progress!

When I heard that the wise woman builds her house in Proverbs 14, I was wondering what it meant… I thought that it was only about a physical house at the beginning! However, when I studied God’s Word, I think that I finally have a clue about the meaning of this verse.

I do believe that the word “house” in this verse not only refers to our physical house, but it goes far beyond  that! It’s about lifting up our families and setting a godly standard, so that we would be a living testimony to the world.

I will study the meaning of this today and share my thoughts with you!

Building a house has several steps that I’m going to examine with you.


Step #1: Start with a good foundation


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The foundation of your house is the fact that you keep God’s commandments and the faith of Jesus. In Matthew 24-27, Jesus described those who follow His Word as building their houses on the rock; whereas the people who do not apply His Word are compared to foolish people who build their houses on the sand.

How can we therefore build our house on the rock and have a good foundation?

Relying on the Lord’s wisdom and principles and not on the world’s, as described in James 3.7 will set the tone of your house:

“But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere”.

Also, we should never forget that without God, we are nothing but can do everything because He strengthens us (Philippians 4.13). Therefore, we should ask for the Holy Spirit’s wisdom to give us strength, wisdom as well as understanding to build our houses.


Step #2: Establish a plan


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Do you have expectations for your house, your life, your family? Bring them to the Lord! I do believe that a wise woman, as we all strive to be, make plans for their lives and put them before God. I am not saying that your plan will always please the Lord, but let’s remember that He has plans of peace and not of evil for us.

Surely, we will have to make plans for our homemaking tasks, like cooking, cleaning, taking care of children, etc. But we will also make plans for our finances, our own projects, how we can participate in our husband’s duties; so that we’ll be proper help-meets; as God called us to be.


Step #3: Raising the walls of your house


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Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it.” ~ Psalm 127:1

Building a house is not something that you’ll master overnight. As I explained earlier, you’ll have to rely on God’s wisdom and strength to do this. Also, you will have to learn how to be patient and not too harsh on yourself (that’s a beautiful piece of wisdom I learnt myself!).

Indeed, you don’t have to be perfect at the beginning; but you’ll need to be committed and disciplined. There will be a lot of joy and a lot of tears in the process. However, as you have the Holy Spirit with you, you’ll be able to raise those walls!

Raising walls is an upward task. It means that we should always seek to make our house uplifiting for our husbands, our children, our brothers and sisters, our friends, for everyone.

This means that our house will become a source of inspiration (at every level) because of our wise management and care! Can you imagine that for you? Well, I certainly can.


Step #4: Putting a roof on your house


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The roof protects our house from wind, sun, and rain. What is the spiritual equivalent of a roof in the context of this post?

For me, it means that we should protect our house from evil influence. We should not put things into our houses which will put us away from God!

Instead, we should make sure that our houses are spiritually cleaned and get rid of all the influence from the world. Get rid of clothes who do not reflect your Glory as God’s daughter. Get rid of magazines, books and all the things which don’t lift you spiritually.

Our houses must be a statement for our godliness!

Also, we must be very careful about what kind of people we admit in our house. Do they want good for you? Can you trust them? Do your children’s friend good influences?

Of course, as a woman of God, your house and my house must be open for everybody, because we are charitable and have sense of hospitality (hopefully!) .

But we must be careful not to allow things that put us away from God and we must be firm about it! Well, that’s my opinion.


Step #5: Final touch


beautiful interior


Last but not least, we should add a touch of beauty in our house! Being surrounded by beauty in your home decor will show your exquisite taste! We shouldn’t forget that God is the Ultimate Artist and that He enjoys beauty and cleanliness in a home!

Moreover, we must cultivate the fruits of the Spirit in our house, so that we will prosper: love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and self-control (Galatians 5.22-23).

If you don’t know where to start, look at these woman of the Bible:





Do you agree with the principles of building a house? Please share your point of view!

Stay blessed!

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  1. Kim says:

    Nice post. I really liked that you placed a firm foundation as the first step to building a home. Following god’s principles helps to grow happy home, but I believe that often people fail to build a firm foundation. What is the first and foremost important factor to building a solid foundation?

    • angelce says:

      Hello Kim,

      Thank you for reading my post!

      I do believe that following God, searching the Scriptures and asking the guidance of the Holy Spirit in your actions must help you to build a firm foundation!

    • Oghosa lysa says:

      First..get to know God personally,develop a healthy relationship with him,and find out what he expects I.e His model or pattern for a family,and decide with your husband ,to enact this in your home.

    • siaw mandy says:

      truly an inspiration…..ifeel sooooo blessed

      • angelce says:


      • Diana Evensen says:

        I LOVE the post. Your analogy of building a house to spiritual things is terrific. The formatting was good, too. Great relevant photos, short paragraphs, kept me engaged, etc. I think I got two thirds of the way thru the post before I found any mistakes. Here’s what I found to improve:
        When you say, “We should not put things which will put us away from God in our houses!” the sentence is awkward. I think your meaning would come thru more easily if the statement was, “We should not put things into our houses which will put us away from God !”
        I’m not sure what you meant in this sentence: “Do your children’s friend good frequentations?” maybe “Are your children’s friends good influences?”
        The last one is just one word to fix: “God is the Ultimate Artist and that he enjoy beauty and cleanliness in a home!” Saying He enjoys instead of he enjoy would be preferable.
        It’s a great post, and I have subscribed using my non-business email – a real rarity!

        • angelce says:

          Hello Diana,

          Welcome to my blog and thanks for suscribing!

          Thank you also for your critical eye! I corrected my mistakes where you pointed them. You must know that English is not my primary language and that sometimes I write in English but I think in… French!

          God bless you and I hope you’ll continue to visit!

          • Diana Evensen says:

            For someone with English as a Second Language you have excellent mastery. Plenty of folks whose primary language is English get more wrong than you did. Just today I wrote my first blog on WA, asking about how honest we should be in comments. I’m glad you found my suggestions helpful!!

            • angelce says:

              Thank you to you! Don’t hesistate to come back, I enjoy your honesty.

            • Debby says:

              Elodie, this was a very nice post and I enjoyed it very much. I agree wholeheartedly with your basic principles of building a home and what our role is in that. I do have just one question though, regarding establishing a plan. Should we come up with a plan for what we want to accomplish and ask God to bless our plan; or should we ask Him to reveal to us the plans He has for us and ask Him to light and guide our path? In Jeremiah 29:11 the bible tells us that God knows the plans He has for us. What are your thoughts along these lines?

              • angelce says:

                Hello Debby,

                Thank you for reading my post! I do think that sometimes we have plans that don’t match God’s will for our lives. That’s why it’s safer to ask God what are His plans for us at a global scale. But you can make a plan for your daily lives (like your homemaking plans for example) with God’s help of course!

                Stay blessed!

              • Olive says:

                It is my dream to build my home and I never really new where to start besides buying the land and all that. I honestly did not expect that this is what your post was going to be about once I started reading. If that was done on purpose then great job! You definitely got me hahaha

                I am a firm believer and your post really gave me a different perspective on build my dream home. Thank you!

                God is always good 🙂

                • angelce says:

                  Thank you and as you said God is always good! All the time!