My dear fellow Proverbs 31 women in Progress,
I hope you did well this week. Today, I wanted to share with you a short post regarding the relationship between beauty and women in the marriage. Are very beautiful women superior when marriage comes in the picture? Do they have the best marriages and the best partners?
Please stay with me while I am answering this question. You might be surprised…or not.
Let’s start with a crossed study of two women in the Bible.
Vasthi vs Esther
Well, do you remember Vasthi’s story? She was the very beautiful queen of King Ahasuerus at the beginning of the Book of Esther. When her husband threw a party for his court, he wanted to show her off to his nobility, as she was a woman of great beauty.
However, when the King summoned her, she refused to come. What was the result of her disobedience to her husband and king? She was stripped off from her title of queen and forever banished from his presence.
On the other hand, Esther was very gentle, wise, willing to learn, diplomatic, and listening to Mordecai’s advice. On top of that, she was also extremely beautiful. But her beauty is not what we remember her for in the first place. She is first remembered for her qualities and her role in saving the Jewish people from a genocide.
Read more: Worthy Women Series #2 – Queen Esther
Our character matters more than beauty
What does these crossed stories show us? They show that our character matters more in marriage or even in everyday life than your beauty. Of course, let’s not be foolish: if a man had choice between a model and a very ordinary girl, the model will be noticed first because of her physique.
Men are visual creatures and first drawn to your beauty. That’s why our mothers always recommend us to be at our most beautiful state. However, our character is the reason why a man decides to settle with you.
Look at Vasthi: she was a beauty and her husband was proud to have such a beautiful woman as queen. However, her beauty couldn’t do anything for her when she showed her true colors. She lost her status, her marriage and her husband – in one night!
We have become Sarah’s daughters
Wives, likewise, be submissive to my own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel – rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror
1 Peter 3:1-6
I know that this Biblical passage is merely quoted to remind that wives must submit to their husbands. However, it also shows that character matters and that’s what will help you to get married or to keep your marriage. Your character is what you are remembered for. Beauty is temporary but your heart will draw your husband to you.
Why does Peter encourage us to emulate Sarah’s character? Here are some answers from the Book of Genesis – you can read the Book of Genesis (chapters 12 to 21) to meditate on her story:
- Sarah had faith in God
- Sarah was a peaceful and quiet woman
- Sarah obeyed her husband and took care of him
- Sarah was a good mother
- Sarah was a good hostess and followed the laws of hospitality
- And of course, Sarah was beautiful!
Sarah’s character really allowed her to shine and she was radiant. Besides her beauty, she was radiant with God’s favor and grace. When your mind is in peace with God, that you follow His path and stay away from trouble, you will radiate. And your internal radiance will show on the outside.
And you’ll be the most beautiful women to your husband and even to the world!
So that’s all for today! Do you think that beauty is enough for women? Please share your point of view!