Why I Don’t Make New Year Resolutions Anymore!

 

 

 

My dear fellow Proverbs 31 women in Progress,

First of all, let me wish you a blessed, happy and exciting new year for 2017! I hope you enjoyed your holidays and that you spent quality time with your loved ones.

Now that 2016 is behind us and that we are getting ahead with a new year, I wanted to tell you about my attitude towards New Year resolutions.

Like most of us, I was very fond of making resolutions at the beginning of each year. Most of them were very common:

  • I will exercise more
  • I will lose weight
  • I will be closer to God
  • I will spend more time with my family and friends

Do you recognize yourselves in these resolutions? I do. But everytime I made resolutions, I quickly failed to follow them and I crashed and burnt after 2 weeks. Why? Because I wasn’t motivated anymore. I didn’t get the point of these resolutions. I wasn’t disciplined enough.

So this year, I decided to act with discipline, like a Proverbs 31 woman in progress. I will share with you the method I have adopted to be add more discipline in my life:

 

Setting goals with the S-M-A-R-T method

 

What is S-M-A-R-T?

This method was introduced in 1981 par George T. Nolan for corporate management issues. However, many personal development gurus recommend this method to determine goals you want to achieve. I guess that the acronym SMART was made because it’s fun and easy to memorize.

Now, I am going to explain you each letter of the acronym.

S for Specific

It’s a kind of mission statement of your goals. For example, if you say: “I want to lose 20 kg”, you’ll have to be very specific about this goal and answer the following questions (when relevant):

  • who can help you to achieve this goal? Do you need to contact someone? For example, if you want to lose 20 Kg, you can buy a book or contact a coach.
  • What are you trying to achieve? If you lose 20 Kg, you may want to be in charge of your health and take care of your body.
  • What is your time-frame? In my example, you can say that you’ll lose 20 kg in 6 months.
  • Where? It’s not always relevant but it can apply depending of the goal you want to achieve. The location for my example is irrelevant.
  • What is the reason of this goal? Why do you want to achieve this goal? You can say that you want to have a longer life by taking care of your body.

M for Measurable

It refers to the metrics you’ll need to use to measure if you have successfully achieved your goals. For example, if you decide to read 1 book per week, you’ll have to make an assessment of your actions at the end of the week. By the end od the week, did you read the whole book? Then you achieved your goal.

A for Action-Oriented

It means that you’ll have to make a plan to achieve your goals and put them in motion. For example, if you want to lose 20 Kg, you can say that you’ll walk 5 times a week to put this goal in motion.

R for Realistic

Of course, you’ll have to be realistic. It’s okay to target the moon and to dream big. There is the popular saying stating that “Sky’s the limit”. However, I would suggest you to take babysteps. Start with small goals, and then follow bigger goals when you feel comfortable.

Your goals should also have a realistic timing. No, you won’t get $1,000,000 within the month if you have nothing in your bank account or if you don’t have a lucrative job – unless you win the lottery but it happens to very few people and it’s not a plan that I would recommend you!

T for Time-bound

It just means that you need to determine a deadline to accomplish your goals. You’ll also be able to review them and to adjust them, depending on the results you got.

Bonus

  • Pray over your goals. If they are aligned with God’s will, He will surely help you to accomplish them! Remember that faith in God coupled with proper action can move mountains.
  • Put your goals in writing. Many studies showed that people who wrote their goals down had more chance to accomplish them.
  • Don’t be hard on yourself if you fail to accomplish one of your goal. It happens! It can even be a lesson for you and you can learn from your failure.

Moreover, I decided to post my list of goals (and their results) on my blog every month and I’ll start next month.

I have identified several areas in which I will set my goals:

  • spiritual
  • health/fitness
  • personal growth
  • finances
  • homemaking
  • personal projects

What do you think of this goal-setting method? Please share your point of view!

Once again, happy new year 2017 and as always…

Stay blessed!

 


4 comments

  1. Kathy says:

    Hi!
    Setting goals is an important part of having an ordered lifestyle. I love that you have decided to post your personal goal progress on your website. You have added accountability, which plays an important part in being able to achieve our goals. Becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman is a worthy goal to work towards; as you begin to become more like her, you become more like Christ. Thank you for being transparent and open.
    Many Blessings,
    Kathy

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